As many adults become caregivers for aging loved ones, over 30% of the US population find themselves giving care to chronically ill, disabled, or elderly family members/friends. Caring for seniors can become overwhelming, as it involves juggling multiple responsibilities.
So, how do we navigate the complexities of caring for an aging loved one?

IDENTIFY YOUR ELDERLY LOVED ONE’S NEEDS

Regularly evaluating a loved one’s ability to perform activities of daily living (ADLs) is crucial in determining what types of additional assistance may be required in order for them to live comfortably.

Basic ADLs include eating, dressing, bathing, continence/toileting, transferring, and walking. Instrumental ADLs, which are necessary for independent living, include cooking, managing finances, housekeeping, using a telephone, and managing medication.
Assessing a loved one’s level of independence is based on whether they can perform these activities on their own or need help from a family caregiver.

REVIEW HEALTH AND MEDICAL NEEDS

It is important to have conversations with parents and family members, even if they are currently in good health, about their care and treatment preferences. Take the time to discuss health needs such as medication and routine healthcare, gather important health/medical contacts, establish a relationship with their primary care physician, review any chronic conditions and complications, and help schedule upcoming appointments.

It is also important to discuss goals of care with a senior loved one. Ask them questions like who they want to be their power of attorney, if they cannot make their decisions, and make sure they have filled out an advanced directive. These conversations can be difficult, but they are necessary to ensure that everyone is on the same page and that your loved one’s wishes are respected in the event of an emergency.

SET EXPECTATIONS AND ESTABLISH ROLES

It is crucial for all family members involved to have an open discussion about roles, boundaries, and expectations as caregivers. Communicate what you are comfortable with and what you prefer not to do. For instance, you may be happy to assist with household chores and meal preparation, but you may not feel comfortable providing medical care. It is important to have these conversations early and establish clear roles for each family member in order to avoid conflicts in the future.

DISCUSS OPTIONS FOR LIVING ARRANGEMENTS

Aging can present itself with new safety concerns, especially around the house. Discuss various senior living options such as assisted living or memory care, to best understand if a loved one is comfortable living alone or would prefer making other arrangements. If an elderly loved one is able to continue living at home, consider a few home remodeling options to help them safely age in place, as well as remote monitoring devices for fall detection.

GO OVER FINANCES

When discussing aging plans, it is important to get your aging loved one’s thoughts on how they would like their finances handled if they are no longer able to make those decisions. Some important topics to go over could include home ownership, outstanding debts, savings, and retirement funds. Find out what financial accounts are open and where they are held, gather contact information for financial advisors, and educate yourself on Social Security benefits. It is also important to ensure that beneficiary designations are up-to-date. Finally, find ways to streamline bill paying, such as setting up automatic payments.

DISCUSS LEGAL ISSUES AND WHERE IMPORTANT DOCUMENTS ARE BEING STORED

It’s important to take care of legal issues while aging family members are in good health in order to reduce the stress brought on by the caregiving process. Take some time to discuss legal issues such as a will, a power of attorney for finances and health care, as well as estate plan to ensure beneficiaries and responsibilities are up-to-date. Also, learn about where personal information and legal documents are stored so you know where to find them, when needed.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Caring for an elderly loved one can be a challenging and emotional journey. It is important to approach the situation with understanding, effective communication, and compromise. Seek professional guidance if needed and prioritize self-care in order to provide the best care for your aging loved one.

Remember to be patient and empathetic, as this transition can be difficult for both you and your loved one. With love, support, and understanding, you can navigate this journey together.